Age is Nothing But A Number

A cougar is a vicious wild cat that preys on helpless animals. A cougar is also an older woman that dates a younger man. Why is this practice given the name of a hungry wild cat? A woman that seeks a relationship with a younger man is not seeking a meal. She is not trying to fatten herself up. What woman is looking to do that. She is just looking to have a good time with a person with more energy, more style, and youthful good looks.

When a man dates a younger woman he is not given a name like hyena or leopard or eagle or any other predator. He is considered "the man". What makes it different when men date younger woman? Why is this considered socially acceptable? One reason is that women mature faster than men so naturally a woman would have to date an older man. Sounds reasonable but this would appear to be a a slap in the face to men, but they put a different spin on it. Men see dating a younger woman as getting a prize. They feel young and viral being with a younger woman eventhough they often look ridiculous.

Age is a number but it also represents where you are in life and what your life expectations are. We are all seeking to stay young, energetic and be happy. Before you seek your energy from others first seek to find it in yourself. I have been biased against men and younger woman in this commentary, but overall I want people to find love where they can; be open to it, but primarily be honest and realistic about it. If you are with someone younger because you feed off of their energy or you like their looks/physique, remember that they will get older too and those things will change. What will you do then? Age is a number so use that number to calculate the relationshi. If one number is greater than the other number, review the other variables of the equations and try to get a solution that is equal on both sides.

Bring Your 'A' Game

When you meet someone always put forth your 'A' game. Since first impressions are lasting impressions you want to make sure that you are presenting the best of you. This is especially important when it comes to dating. When you meet someone on your first date you are both there to get a feel for what the other person is like. I know you are thinking that you want the person to get to know the real you, but sometimes it is easier to get to know the 'real' you once you have put forth the best of you. For example, if you are a touchy feely person then this may be something you dont want to do upon a first meeting. That action may make someone uncomfortable initially. Remember your mom's rule 'keep you hands to yourself'. This one will prove you well in this case because the person may prefer to get to know someone more before they are receptive to touches

Remembering all of the etiquette rules that your mother taught you will greatly benefit the first date experience, and it puts you both on even ground. If you both know not to chew with your mouth open or talk over people, then you will avoid any uncomfortable or even embarrasing moments. The first date is to see if you have chemistry, are physically attracted, and can hold a conversation. So dont ruin the initial impressions by adding some improper conversation or bodily gestures and noises.

So remember, dont be you be the person you want to be. They have plenty of time to get to know the real you and if the first date went well and you have the chemistry and physical attraction then they may be able to overlook the fact that the real you curses like a sailor.

Dating - Start with the Basics (Rule One)

We aren't all young, but I suppose most of us are restless. Restless because there is so much to do in life: work, errands, community involvement. On top of everything the task of dating is always on the to do list. How do you meet the right person? Where do you go to meet people of similar interest? What do you do when you do meet someone? There are so many questions when it comes to dating but not enough of the right answers.

the first rule is to treat people the way you want to be treated. Nothing to difficult just the Golden Rule of life. If you start from there everything else will be easier (not easy just easier). In relationships people are sensitive and guarded after all trust does not come easy. Yeah, I know this is not something that has not already been said. Like I stated there are not enough of the right answers just a repeat of the same ones.

The same answers stay around because they are right to the point. One to start off with is knowing why you are dating. Are you looking for a mate, making a friend, or looking for someone to hangout with. Knowing this in advance will help set the tone of the date. Be sure to tell your date your intentions in advance. They should know what your expectations of them are and it will help them to make any decisions they need to make regarding you.

So think about it and be honest with yourself. What are you ready for? What type of relationship are you ready for emotionally, physically and spiritually. You have to know the answers or at least start exploring the answers before you seek something from others. Think about it and let us know where you are or rather what you are ready for